6 Month Lessons
This past Monday was my 6 month wedding anniversary. Now, if you’re anything like my husband, you’ll look at me weirdly and say, “who celebrates that?” but for me, it was an important milestone. We had been together half a year, gotten through the bad times and enjoyed lots of good ones. Here are the 6 main lessons I learned in my six months of marriage!
1- You will NEVER know a guy completely until you have lived with him, travelled with him and he has been sick around you.
2- Patience may be a virtue in most life situations, but in marriage, it is absolutely ESSENTIAL if don’t want to spend life in jail for homicide.
3- You MUST respect each other in all ways possible because it will open doors for compromise, which is the lifeblood, the backbone and air-supply of every marriage.
4- Forgiveness is MANDATORY! You cannot and must not hold grudges with each other!
5- Communication is KEY! This may sound like alliteration (of sorts) but you must be able to share your feelings and discuss your problems until you arrive at a reasonable conclusion (which is generally doing things my way).
While most of my above points can be found in self-help books titled along the lines of “How to Save your Marriage” or the “Guide to a Healthy Marriage,” you’ll probably not find this elsewhere and more than likely, this will be the most beneficial for you…
6- In Islam, marriage is fulfilling half your deen and your love for your spouse should stem from your love for Allah (SWT). I learned that praying with my husband, learning about our deen together and sharing other devotional practices brought us so much closer together and strengthened us in our love for our Lord, our deen and for each other.
Disclaimer: While everyone is encouraged to try this at home, the author cannot truthfully claim to be a full-time adherent of the aforementioned practices.
